“We as women are trained to see ourselves as cheap imitations of fashion photographs, rather than seeing fashion photographs as cheap imitation of women” -Naomi Wolf
Recently, I was at Mumbai airport and because I had a lot of time in hand I decided to go cosmetic shopping. And I ended up at a known skin care brand shop where the lady welcomed me with a smile. I told her that I was looking for a moisturizer that can just nourish my skin and yet not make it look oily. As soon as I told her this the lady began telling me how my skin is really dull, has blemishes, discoloration in certain areas and then tried to sell me the most expensive moisturizer along with other stuff. I could swear that nobody made me feel so self-conscious and terrible about myself. And that’s when I realized how desperate we women are to have the perfect skin, perfect bust or perfect body size.
Have you ever seen a guy feel insecure about other guys’ skin, height, or even body? (Yeah, they do envy because it’s basic human emotion but I’m talking about insecurity here). NO? That’s because the society doesn’t treat guys as eye candies and that is one of the reasons why they are secure and comfortable in their own skin while most women are crash dieting, becoming anorexic or depressed about their complexion.
It took me 19 years to disobey with the beauty standards projected by fashion and cosmetic industry and to fall in love with my flaws. I am not against makeup or size2 all I am saying is every dent or curve on your body, every scar or every freckle that you think is a flaw and imperfection is something that makes you idiosyncratically beautiful.
Go ahead, stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself. Just look at how beautiful that scar is, how beautifully curvy those love handles are and instead of being ashamed of them wear them like a badge of honor because you are beautiful in your own way.
“For I conclude that enemy is not lipstick, but guilt itself; we deserve to be sexual and serious- or whatever we please; We are entitled to wear cowboy boots to our own revolution.” -Naomi Wolf
(I would like to give special credits to Gursimran Kaur( Rum and raisins on WordPress) for introducing me to engaging authors and also for discussing beauty myths which triggered me to write this article.)